Hey you, I see you.
I see you at the end of the day, peeling off your clothes and falling into bed after a day of trying to be patient with children who ‘can’t find’ their shoes and don’t want smushy Weetabix for breakfast. I see you rushing about trying to prep yourself a healthy lunch for the day (because apparently, we need to eat ten fruits and veg per day now, and we must be good role models!) before cramming work into your so-called ‘available’ hours, showing up, and doing extra to show you’ve still got it ‘even though you’re a mum’. I see you still fielding emails on your phone while you’re doing the laundry (for seemingly, unbeknownst to you, a football team has moved in!). I see you being the peace-keeper between your partner and child who have different views on what is an appropriate way to express emotion, and wrangling children to bed who don’t want to go (because their best friend’s parents would NEVER make their kids go to bed at that time of night!?).
I know you’re feeling frustrated that time seems to evaporate after doing ALL of the things for ALL the people. You’re sad that you haven’t had time to really listen and play with the children (let alone think about playing with your partner! 😉), and you’re worried that maybe you shouldn’t apply for that promotion.
I know you’re thinking, “How do other people do this?”, “Why can’t I just be more organised and then I’ll get more done?”, wondering, “Who have I become? A slave to the family and the weight of expectation??”, As your busy mind runs through these thoughts, another question appears, “Where’s the fun gone? I USED to BE FUN!”. But that’s the life of a busy working mum. It’s your own fault; you made your bed and you lie in it, right??
Here’s what I want you to know. Yes, it is your fault (bear with me!). With the best of intentions you’ve chosen to take responsibility for everything because you’ve decided you need to control everything. After all, who else is going to do it? But now you’re overwhelmed, and your support network doesn’t know what you need for help, maybe you haven’t been able to communicate what you need from them (telepathy, eye-rolls and deep sighs aside). So, of course, you have too much on your plate. I want you to know THERE IS ANOTHER WAY.
This is your life, RIGHT NOW. You absolutely deserve to live and lead it in a way that brings you joy (so give yourself permission). If you want to let go of overwhelm and bring more calm, joy and balance into your life so you can show up at work and at home, send me a message and let’s talk! The power really IS in your hands.
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